No child likes to be told "no", especially when they are too young to understand the logic behind the demand, and even then it can become a battle of wits between a parent and a strong-willed child. An easier way to deal with a situation is to find a way to say no without actually saying "no". It sounds silly, I know, but I think you would be surprised at how well it works! Some suggestions for saying no without saying "No!"... Get the child’s attention before communicating, touch them on the shoulder or hand... Say the child’s name. Use a gesture, move so you get into her visual field. Show him an object or other visual cue to get him to look at you. Help them know what TO do. Using your singing voice calms you and the child. Instead of saying “Don’t wipe your nose on your sleeve", hand him a tissue. Use a gesture. Gestures can guide her to appropriate behavior. Instead of “Don’t drop your coat on the floor”, point to the coat rack. Model what you want. Offer “Let’s do it together”. That can encourage children to do things with more enthusiasm. Call attention to the “problem”. Say “Oh, oh” “Oops!” “Look!” Then point to what needs to be done. Look right at his face and clearly state what you want the student to do.
When in doubt...Tell the child what TO do, instead of what NOT to do.
A big Thank You to Lori B. for originally posting these suggestions!
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